Today I’m breaking down the inverse relationship between habits and willpower.
The key to creating any habit is by enforcing the behavior using….willpower.
It’s hard to keep up willpower after that initial excitement wears off.
Sure, we can stick to a low-fat 1,000 calorie diet and go hungry for a week or two, but, if you’re anything like me and the hundreds of women I’ve talked to, eventually that willpower fades away.
And yes, we can do exercises we hate for a while… until we run out of willpower.
But what about getting up to take the kids to school every morning, brushing our teeth or going to work every day.
Those may not be our favorite things to do, but still we do them daily without batting an eye.
Well guys, that’s because they have become habits. They are so ingrained in what we do and who we are that we do them without even considering skipping a day or a week.
We don’t have to make a conscious decision each day to shower or drive to work. It’s just what we do AKA a habit.
When you start to think about it, there is an inverse relationship between habits and will power.
When you first want to build a new habit, it takes a lot of will power to get it done day in and day out.
BUT, as you start to establish that habit, it becomes easier and easier to do until you don’t even have to think about it anymore.
Luckily, just being AWARE of the process helps us stick it out.
We know we don’t always have to make such a big effort to go work out or skip the donut for breakfast.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel. We know eventually it will become habit to go out for a run first thing in the morning and grab some fruit or fix some eggs for breakfast.
While we’re in that transition from willpower to habit, we can use tools to make it easier.
Find what works for you, make a to-do list or set a reminder to help stay on track.
Hey, use a friend so the two of you can bug [Err, I mean, motivate] each other and help boost up that willpower.
Even something as simple as laying out your work out clothes the night before, I do this all the time and guess what? IT WORKS!
Do what you can to help maintain your willpower until you have made your new behavior a true habit once and for all.
After those first couple of weeks, it’ll be easy breezy and soon after, automatic.
Boom. You’ve created a new lifelong habit. Make sure it’s a good one!